Let’s Heal

Let’s Heal
By Darlaina Rose

Like Oprah there are some things that I know for sure. (I love Oprah by the way). We are responsible for our lives and all that we experience. Period. The end. You can try to blame your parents, the job, your wife, your husband, yada, yada. Some of us even allow self-hate and guilt about something to affect us negatively. But baybeh at the end of the day you have allowed all of it to continue to affect you. This stuff leads back to the feeling of “I’m just not good enough”, which is not true either. That’s a thought process, and it can be changed.

We sometimes allow people in spaces of our lives to whom we should have never given access. This then brings about the emotions of anger, deep hurt, regret, grief, stress and a host of other negative emotions. These feelings, when left unchecked and unresolved, can lead to dis-ease in the body.
There is so much research out to support this. The problem is that there are not enough people shedding light on how our negative emotions can affect us. We must let go of the past! Some of us are holding on to old hurts like a dog with a bone covered in gravy—a perfect analogy by Lisa Nichols, my mentor in my head. We must forgive, not just some people that we perceived to have hurt us. We must forgive everyone. I choose the words ‘’perceived hurt” because people don’t hurt us. It is our expectation of the person that causes the hurt. When they don’t live up to our expectations we become are hurt. We must manage our expectations. Many individuals have been hurt and traumatized in ways similar to our pains, and as the old saying goes “hurt people, hurt people”.

When they don’t live up to our expectations we become are hurt. We must manage our expectations. Many individuals have been hurt and traumatized in ways similar to our pains, and as the old saying goes “hurt people, hurt people”.

The true keys to dissolving dis-ease in the body is self-approval and self-acceptance. They will lead you to the positive changes your body needs. Even in my coaching sessions, I have a line of questions that are specific to emotions. The first thing some of my clients like to know is what do these questions have to do with my health. The list below, taken from You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay, gives insight as to where certain emotions tend to show up in our bodies.

Back Pain – lack of support
Lower back pain – finances and financial support
Cancer – deep hurt, longstanding resentment, deep secret or grief eating away at self, carry hatreds
High blood pressure – long standing emotional problem not solved
Bowel Problems – fear of letting go of the old and no longer needed.
Breast Problems- a refusal to nourish the self. Putting everyone else first. Over-protection. Overbearing attitudes.

If you think about people you know who are suffering from these problems–even if it’s you–there is a high percentage that the emotions are 100% on point.

That is why it is so important that when I coach, the first thing I deal with is the emotional state of my client. Once that part is done, I like to discuss proper nutrition, rather than a temporary diet. We discuss how to incorporate dietary changes, nutritional supplements and live food into a new way of living in order to sustain the body’s needs. The final piece to the wellness puzzle is movement whether it be walking up and down the stairs in your house or walking around your block. Movement is important.
Emotional wellness is just as or even more important than what you eat and or how often you exercise. Know that you are good enough and that you deserve all the good that life has to offer.
Here are a few key tips for keeping your emotions in check:

• 1. Manage your expectations of yourself and others. Be realistic about your limitations and the actions of others
• 2. Change is inevitable. Grow from it don’t resist.
• 3. Maintain positive thoughts and be around positive people.
• 4. Take responsibility for YOU.
• 5. Treat yourself the way you treat a good friend.
• 6. Laugh a lot, especially at yourself. It can boost immunity in the body and ease stress.
• 7. Take care of your body temple. It’s the only one you’re going to get. Curb poor eating habits, drinking and smoking.
• 8. Don’t be afraid to talk to someone, if you are in a bad emotional place. Mental illness is real but can be dealt with and lived through.

The last thing I want to share is a poem that I live by:

I am Enough.
Today, I am Enough.
I am smart Enough.
Wise Enough.
Clever Enough.
Resourceful Enough.
Able Enough.
Confident Enough.
I am connected to enough people to accomplish my heart’s desire.
I have enough to pull off Magic and Miracles.
Enough is all I need.
Enough is what I have. I have more than Enough!

 

Darlaina Rose, PC is a life and health coach, founder of  Just the Gurlz-A Women’s Empowerment Community, and the best selling author of How I Got Here-A Holistic Healing Journey. She has been coaching individuals  in the areas of health and personal empowerment for over 10 years. www.DarlainaRose.com.